onequiksc
07-25-2005, 08:52 PM
Today, my wife left me. No, this is not a joke. And it also makes no sense to me. But life sometimes doesn't.
She has been going through many personal and emotional changes the last few months, a new important job for one that has many social functions and trips, as well as premenapausal hot flashes and mood swings, accentuated by a man she met at work with whom she's been flirting with, that has been the object of obsession for her for months. He is divorced with an 8 year old son and must be Brad Pitt from what she says. Be careful what you wish for is what I told her.
The man in question doesn't know Teri's plans right now and has only flirted with her in a business setting, but I'm sure this opens the door for her and him if he's willing. I'm sure he's willing for sex, but whether or not they have the "stuff" to be compatible over time like we were is much less certain. Supposedly this guy backed off and didn't call her for a couple weeks, if she's telling the truth, when he got wind of our troubles. Teri also told me a co-worker mentioned that she had heard this guy was having a "thing" with his babysitter. Even if she crashes and burns, I have to let go and try to move on. I don't want to be a safety blanket, fall back guy if she's become so fickle. I love her more than I can say, but it's not enough to be a punching bag.
My future is very nebulous right now, and it hurts to think about it.
The people that were at our home here Saturday will think...~~~? No way! We seemed so happy together right? I thought so too.
This is why it makes no sense to me either. We had a super time in Tenn, affectionate, both doing things we had in common....she says (not that you've ever heard this one before), she "loves me but isn't in love with me" anymore. She loves me as a friend. Just a friend that she didn't mind having sex with regularly, and intimacy. Usually people that feel that way don't even sleep in the same bed anymore, let alone have sex.
I put my life out to this community, bare my soul to the world because you are my friends and support group. I need it.
Right now, it's hard to imagine life without her. I have so many emotions that I can't think straight.
Although I make decent money, it's not steady. So I have to think of either stepping up my workload somehow or find another line of work. She makes a very good living so I'll definitely feel it, but...I don't need much "stuff" to be happy. People make me happy, not things.
Hopefully a good lawyer can help me do ok.
This actually started 2 months ago, when she first told me about "John". She did wind up leaving one night weeks after that and called me 3 hours later crying, wanting to come home. I told her I didn't know if that was a good idea, because it would just likely prolong the enevitable (I was right eh?) down the road if her heart wasn't in it with me, but her persistence led me to bring her home. Things we ...ok...for a while, we got back on track, but...today she went to counseling and it led her to confront herself and her feelings. She said she'd been trying to work it out but thought about this guy every day, and still had lunch flirtations with him recently. She was confused, still is actually. She says she just needs to be on her own.
I part with a thank you to everyone for listening, because it's cathartic for me to get this out.
My family tells me I will be ok. Hard to figure right now, but maybe so.
The worst part is, I hope the SC doesn't have to factor into this, if I'm in need of $$$ which I may be.
I need some rest, TTYL, Dan.
She has been going through many personal and emotional changes the last few months, a new important job for one that has many social functions and trips, as well as premenapausal hot flashes and mood swings, accentuated by a man she met at work with whom she's been flirting with, that has been the object of obsession for her for months. He is divorced with an 8 year old son and must be Brad Pitt from what she says. Be careful what you wish for is what I told her.
The man in question doesn't know Teri's plans right now and has only flirted with her in a business setting, but I'm sure this opens the door for her and him if he's willing. I'm sure he's willing for sex, but whether or not they have the "stuff" to be compatible over time like we were is much less certain. Supposedly this guy backed off and didn't call her for a couple weeks, if she's telling the truth, when he got wind of our troubles. Teri also told me a co-worker mentioned that she had heard this guy was having a "thing" with his babysitter. Even if she crashes and burns, I have to let go and try to move on. I don't want to be a safety blanket, fall back guy if she's become so fickle. I love her more than I can say, but it's not enough to be a punching bag.
My future is very nebulous right now, and it hurts to think about it.
The people that were at our home here Saturday will think...~~~? No way! We seemed so happy together right? I thought so too.
This is why it makes no sense to me either. We had a super time in Tenn, affectionate, both doing things we had in common....she says (not that you've ever heard this one before), she "loves me but isn't in love with me" anymore. She loves me as a friend. Just a friend that she didn't mind having sex with regularly, and intimacy. Usually people that feel that way don't even sleep in the same bed anymore, let alone have sex.
I put my life out to this community, bare my soul to the world because you are my friends and support group. I need it.
Right now, it's hard to imagine life without her. I have so many emotions that I can't think straight.
Although I make decent money, it's not steady. So I have to think of either stepping up my workload somehow or find another line of work. She makes a very good living so I'll definitely feel it, but...I don't need much "stuff" to be happy. People make me happy, not things.
Hopefully a good lawyer can help me do ok.
This actually started 2 months ago, when she first told me about "John". She did wind up leaving one night weeks after that and called me 3 hours later crying, wanting to come home. I told her I didn't know if that was a good idea, because it would just likely prolong the enevitable (I was right eh?) down the road if her heart wasn't in it with me, but her persistence led me to bring her home. Things we ...ok...for a while, we got back on track, but...today she went to counseling and it led her to confront herself and her feelings. She said she'd been trying to work it out but thought about this guy every day, and still had lunch flirtations with him recently. She was confused, still is actually. She says she just needs to be on her own.
I part with a thank you to everyone for listening, because it's cathartic for me to get this out.
My family tells me I will be ok. Hard to figure right now, but maybe so.
The worst part is, I hope the SC doesn't have to factor into this, if I'm in need of $$$ which I may be.
I need some rest, TTYL, Dan.